About

Hello, I’m Chuck.

I’m a father, husband, and someone who believes that the books we read and our patterns we question can reshape not just our lives, but the generations that follow us.

I live in California with my wife, our daughter, and our cat Mango. Time is precious in our house - between work and family, I find moments where I can read and write. Ten minutes on a commute. Another ten waiting in line. It adds up.

I usually don’t read a book until I’ve seen it 3 times from different sources before I finally pick it up.

This site is where I write about the ideas that stop me in my tracks. Like realizations that make me rethink how I was raised and how I’m raising my daughter.

I’m learning that being a good father means examining the patterns I inherited - both the gifts and the wounds. For example, when I read about seeking recognition in The Courage to Be Disliked, I saw, for the first time, how I seek recognition in my relationships.

I’ve realized that every choice I make now echoes forward, shaping not just my daughter’s life but potentially her children’s too.

I write these reflections primarily for myself - to make the insights stick, to work through what I’m learning. But I share them publicly because maybe you’ll recognize something here. Maybe you’ll think, “Oh, I do that too. I didn’t know that.” Or maybe something I’ve wrestled with will help you see a pattern you hadn’t noticed before.

These aren’t polished essays or expert advice. They’re observations from someone doing the work - questioning inherited beliefs, breaking cycles, and trying to grow into the person his family needs him to be.

Welcome to my journey. Perhaps you’ll find pieces of you here too.